Lonely Old Bob Taylor

What do you know! Beautiful Ursula Thiess has just married lonely old Bob Taylor—that poor cuss who has nothing to offer a girl but love, fun and security!

By Richard Moore

Screen Album, 1954

The beginning of the article is missing.


As I say,” he went on after a moment, “this ‘lonely’ business began when I told that columnist I didn’t go to any parties because I wasn’t invited to any. Well, that’s not strictly the truth, but for her purposes it was, so I’ll repeat it. I don’t go to any Hollywood parties because I’m not invited to any.

“But you have to understand that, in Hollywood, a party is not a party unless it’s one of those where –what is it they always say–’Everybody who is anybody was there!’ What a crushing thing it must be to 159,890,000 Americans to learn that they’re not anybody! I think we should all band together to make up a sympathy club. No, I’m not invited to those. I don’t know any special reason. Oh, if somebody like Jack Warner were giving a super soiree, he might include me but I’d just be an afterthought.

Robert Taylor partying early 1969.

“Usually I just read about them in the papers and try not to lose sleep over it. You understand I’m not crying. Unruffled, even—that’s me. I’m just stating a fact. Only thing you might say about it is this (and I’m not sure even here I’m speaking the truth): maybe I don’t want to go to the parties, but I’d like to be invited. Maybe. But you can’t have one without the other, they tell me, and then I’d be in a fix. The social whirl. And what does that do to my freedom?”

Apparently, to Taylor’s way of thinking, that makes him a prisoner of the RSVP set. You can’t fly to Jackson Hole, Wyoming because you’re due at Brenda Gushberry’s for cocktails. If you don’t show, Brenda positively will never ask you again, and where does that leave you?

In Jackson Hole, Wyoming,” said Taylor. “And a very nice place to be, too. For me, I mean.

Wedding, Jackson Hole,WY May 1954. Ralph Couser, Ursula Thiess, Robert Taylor, Ivy Pearson.

“For Taylor. Don’t think I’m running down party goers because I’m not. Start carping at another person’s way of life, just because it doesn’t suit you, and you’re not being what you call tolerant.

“But this lonely bit—that baffles me. It has a pathetic sound to it, doesn’t it? And I’m one of the least pathetic characters I know. It’s as if I were to point to my opposite number and say ‘Poor Joe, always surrounded by people,’ and then wipe a tear from my eye. Maybe he looks at pathetic as me as I look to him, but I try not to say so. It could be I think he’s trapped and within himself more lonely than I—and all the people like me—less inner resource, you know. Or maybe that’s not the case. But I wouldn’t want to stick my finger in his eye, and out of reciprocal courtesy I’d thank him not to pity me.”

Well, that’s the root of Taylor’s philosophy. Friends contend that there are external circumstances, too, that limit his appearances these days at the gatherings attended by everybody who is anybody. Of course, for a long time before his first marriage, he was in that state of being known in Hollywood, as in Chillicothe, as “out of circulation.”

Eleanor Parker, one of many glamorous women with whom Mr. Taylor’s name was linked.

Both before that marriage and after it ended, Taylor was in great demand. There are less presentable specimens to be sure. When he narrowed down his courting range to Miss Thiess, he became non-eligible for the stag line. Taylor, by fervent testimony of those who know him best, is an impeccable escort; courteous, engaging, non-assertive and positively not the one to stalk his date from Cadillac ambush. This is offered in refutation to those who have Heard It On Good Authority that a girl could do worse than to wear track shoes in his company.

It so happens that Bob Taylor, having been around long and successfully, is capable of urbane indifference toward what is mouthed about him—urbane indifference, but not callousness, a state of skin no star can afford.

He may have winced from time to time. After the collapse of his eleven year—and

Robert Taylor and Barbara Stanwyck in Venice not long before their divorce, 1950.

supposedly idyllic –marriage to Barbara Stanwyck, there were those who said Miss Stanwyck was bitterly angry, whereas Taylor wished to make it the chummiest of divorces. Unhappily for Taylor, Miss Stanwyck was among those who said it. For at least a year, she had no wish to speak to her erstwhile mate. And that agitated a tongue or two. There was talk, as there had to be talk, about Taylor and a girl in Rome, about Taylor and a girl in Palm Springs, about Taylor’s alleged wolfishness that heretofore no one seemed to have noted. Taylor gracefully kept his mouth shut.

It is suspected by some that Taylor’s extraordinary looks are a key to his personality. He is a diffident man, absolutely unwilling to thrust himself forward in any company, and despite his refusal to worry about it, may on occasion rest on a shaky social basis. That is guesswork, but documented guesswork.

Sometimes he seems to be over controlled and only recently has he conquered a somewhat mannered habit of raising his right eyebrow while listening. This trick is thought by his handful of to have been simply a product of nervousness, but its effect was superciliousness.

Extreme good looks are not necessarily a psychological asset. Not for a man. And any public reference to his facial appearance cracks his aplomb. It’s practically the only thing that does.

Lt. Robert Taylor, USNR, World War II

For a brief while during the war, for example, Taylor, a Naval flying instructor with lieutenant’s stripes, was stationed in Washington. And having led a pretty cloistered existence, he dropped in on one or two nightclubs with some friends. At one of these, a girl came over to his table, did a long languishing take, and said: “You’re the most handsome man in the world!” Taylor—quite literally—paled, got up from a half finished dinner, and left the premises. He had been thrown the unanswerable observation and behaved accordingly. Yet, it is not likely that another star would have been so completely unhinged—even one with less metallic poise.

Maturity has taken him out of the over-handsome class that once marked him—unfairly, by the way, as pretty. There is nothing un-masculine about his features; they are startlingly regular, that’s all. And even this doesn’t go for his nose. It is, without a mustache to underscore it, a trifle hawkish. And Taylor doesn’t wear the mustache “unless I’m using it”–i.e. unless it’s necessary to a picture.

That face. Early 1950s.

“Bob,” a friend has said, “could very well have an inferiority complex. He has it under check, naturally, but did you ever see a normal personality quite as contained as his? This guy never lets go. As a kid, he was pretty close to being a male beauty and this may have affected his relations with other youngsters and set the framework for what he was going to be later. No one can say what he might have been if he hadn’t looked the way he does, but my guess is a solid Rotarian type who’d never get to Hollywood except for an American Legion convention. Or a cello player who liked to ride horseback and or fly a rented plane on weekends. He was pretty fair on the cello. But the face came along and crossed him up. Naturally that’s pretty fair crossing. Big money, fame, the chance to live the way he wants to.”

Face or no face, Taylor has no vanity. Witness after witness has firmly deposed that so far as he is concerned, the mirror might as well have not been invented.

Probably the key to the Taylor character is his appreciation of independence. An inch has to be left here for guesswork, since Taylor is not given to self-analysis.

Independence is a better guess, than “lonely” or “self-centered” or “solitary.” It implies a jealous regard for freedom of action. If this freedom were curtailed he would, in truth, become a morbidly unhappy man.

The pilot.

After the completion of Knights of the Round Table, for instance, Taylor felt, as he usually does after any picture, an overwhelming urge to get out of town. He owns a Beechcraft—an eight passenger plane that runs into a lot of money—but then, Taylor makes a lot of money.

So he and Ralph Couser, his long-time friend from Navy days and chief pilot for MGM, piled in and flew to Palm Beach. They had nothing special to do there but Taylor wanted to drop in on another friend to see if there was anything worth eating for dinner. There was. Later they flew back to New Orleans, one of Taylor’s wartime stations, and renewed a warming acquaintance with a restaurateur who interchanges normal false teeth with a set that are diamond encrusted. Still later they caught up with New York, where they dined one night with the entire chorus of the Copacabana nightclub line. It was reported in Hollywood that Taylor alone had taken the whole chorus out.

It was a junket at once aimless and genial, and Taylor seems to like that sort of dido [a prank or caper]. He flies to Illinois once in a while for no sounder reason than an evening of reminiscence with a Navy friend there; to South Dakota or Texas or northern California to hunt or fish; or to Alaska because he’d never been there.

Robert Taylor was born Spangler Arlington Brugh in Filley, Nebraska, a little more than forty years ago, the son of Ruth Adelia Stanhope and Dr. Spangler Andrew Brugh, the latter a sort of self-made physician. That is to say, the late Dr. Brugh, a grain dealer by vocation, adopted the study of medicine in middle life to try and find a cure for his ailing wife. His efforts paid off.

Eventually the family moved to Pomona, not far from Hollywood [entirely untrue] and young Mr. Brugh did well in Pomona College’s senior class play, Journey’s End.

The rest of this is paralyzing familiar. Talent scout. MGM contract. But no parts. Discouragement. Encouragement—from L.B. Mayer. Small break. Big break—opposite Irene Dunne in Magnificent Obsession in 1936. Then the next eighteen years could not be called unalloyed clover, but they were pretty smooth going. There were no serious interruptions to Taylor’s screen career. The war arrested it but did not deflect its upward curve.

Taylor is in most respects an exemplary fellow. Punctual. Clean-cut. Doesn’t get loaded.

Visiting Paris in late 1949 on a weekend trip from filming Conspirator in London with old pal Ralph Couser. Eiffel Tower.

Never, in lots of ways, left Nebraska.

The anecdotes that pursue him most often go like this one. He and Couser, his pilot friend, break down while en route by car to a fishing trip. Truck driver helps them out. Truck driver, who had at first regarded Taylor with truculent suspicion, warms to him over a few nips of Taylor-owned Scotch. Would have warmed to him anyway. “Tyler,” the guy finally says, pronouncing it the way it’s spelled there, “you’re awright. First I thought you were some so-and-so movie star.”

Then again, Taylor and Couser were flying once over some country that wouldn’t have been easy to sit down in, when the wings iced up and the propellers failed. They lost 10,000 feet before things got back to proper. Taylor, by solemn testimony of both, said nary a word during the whole excruciating experience. Stayed with the controls with taut-faced silence, just like in the movies.

“How could he talk?” Couser has said, in moving tribute. “He fainted!” That wasn’t it, declares Taylor. I was just scared speechless.

The dog lover.

The median fact is that Taylor is a competent, experienced pilot, and one who loves to fly. He’s a good shot, either hunt or skeet, a good man with a fishing rod, a better than good horseman. His tennis is inoffensive, his golf woeful and his knowledge of—and talent with—foods very commendable. He likes to eat simply and well—and he does like to eat.

So,” said Taylor in summation, “we go back to the loneliness. If you want to regard it mathematically, it could be true. I have exactly two friends in Hollywood. Two. That may be counting it kind of close, but it’s a good, round number. But if the way I live is loneliness, then it’s a different word from what the dictionary says it means. For me, it’s the happy way. And I still have a dollar that says there are lots like me. And we mean it. We’re not taking a defensive attitude.”

And it was on approximately this note that the loneliest man in Hollywood went his lonely way, looking completely happy about it—happy as a clam or a guy who’d just knocked over a big lie about himself. And every bit as happy as bridegrooms are said to be.

About giraffe44

I became a Robert Taylor fan at the age of 15 when his TV show, "The Detectives" premiered. My mother wanted to watch it because she remembered Mr. Taylor from the thirties. I took one look and that was it. I spent the rest of my high school career watching Robert Taylor movies on late night TV, buying photos of him, making scrapbooks and being a typical teenager. College, marriage and career intervened. I remember being sad when Mr. Taylor died. I mailed two huge scrapbooks to Ursula Thiess. I hope she got them. Time passed, retirement, moving to Florida. Then in 2012 my husband Fred pointed that there were two Robert Taylor movies that evening on Turner Classic Movies--"Ivanhoe" and "Quentin Durward." I watched both and it happened all over again. I started this blog both for fans and for people who didn't know about Robert Taylor. As the blog passes 200,000 views I'm delighted that so many people have come by and hope it will help preserve the legacy of this fine actor and equally good man.
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4 Responses to Lonely Old Bob Taylor

  1. Fun reading. I NEVER get tired of reading quality stories about Robert Taylor.


  2. Hi, Martha, I thought that most of this rang true, unlike a lot of them. Judith


  3. June Alexander says:

    Aaah Judith, you have done it again. Great reading !!!!
    It’s taken 2 days for me to have time to read it, very frustrating for an impatient person like me.
    Such a good read and like you read the probable truth in the comments as reported.
    Thanks Judith.


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